Deep Thoughts!

It is clear that when someone is un-happy they will do whatever it takes in order to change the situation which is making them un-happy. The problem with that, not everyone knows how to change the situation! A really good example happened at work the other day. One of my co-workers was complaining how unhappy he is at work and how he hates coming in everyday and how much he really wants to find another job. My response was: are you looking for a job or just complaining about this one? He was a little taken aback with my forwardness but still answered: “I am not sure how to look”. I was shocked and surprised. The shock came from the fact that he talked so negatively about his current position, I was sure he had something in the pipeline just incase he would get fired for all of his loud conversation in regards to how much this place is “bad”. The surprise came from the fact that he is somewhat educated and yet has no idea of how to proceed with following through with a job change. Not even necessarily a career change. Just a job change! After reviewing some suggestions that I had for him he seemed pretty satisfied and was really happy for my little intervention.
The above was just one situation with how people are unhappy with something and yet, do not know where to start in order to make a change. Could it be possible there are a lot more unhappy people that need help? There is a saying that says it all: if you teach a man to fish, he will eat forever. If you catch a fish and give it to a man he will always be hungry. Why then do people insist on band aiding problems? Do they not realize this is not ‘helping’ they are actually hurting the person they are allegedly trying to help! For example: A parent yelling at their child that they are misbehaving without offering any suggestions for improvement. How is the child to know what his options are? Maybe the child feels that if he misbehaves he will get his parents attention?
Is it not all part of the learning curve?